“Congregations are increasingly composed of people with little sense of
the Christian story.”
Alan J. Roxburgh
Increasingly I hear members ask, “Where are our children?”
“Where are our grandchildren?” Naturally, the question is asked about senior
highs and older children. A lot of them are not in church. They were in Sunday
school growing up. They participated in Vacation Bible
School most years. Yet,
it must not have been enough because today they’re not interested. What went
wrong?
These questions are being asked throughout North American
churches of many denominations. Such questions are a central concern for a new
movement that is growing with considerable force throughout the larger church –
The Missional Church Movement.
One answer that is emerging from this movement is that, for
most families involved in church, church is either a place to be busy doing
“church stuff” or a place where we, and our needs, are taken care of. The
conclusion of our nearly grown and grown children is that their lives are busy
enough without the church adding to their complicated lives. As for us, their
needs are a concern, they can be meet in other ways – unfortunately sometimes in
ways that are not always healthy. The one thing that would keep our children
connected to the church, and with considerable vitality, is a compelling sense
that they are a part of the Christian story.
What gets in the way of this happening is complex – there
are many obstacles, many layered upon one another. The largest among them is little
evidence that parents are truly discipled – living lives that are ordered
around the teachings of Jesus. More of the family financial resources are spent
on comforts than used to advance the ministry of the church. Prayers are not a
regular part of family life and little care is given to how we speak of others
or behave toward them. Simply, our children don’t see transformed lives in
their parents.
Another obstacle is parents who see the church primarily for
meeting personal needs. Rather than seeing a passion to reach people who don’t
know Christ, our children see parents demanding more for themselves from the
church. This reinforces in our children the message from the unchristian
culture which is “it is about me!”
Throughout this year, I will share reflections here in this
blog and in our church’s newsmagazine what it means to be a missional church –
a church that cares more about being a force for Christ in the community than
“taking care of our own.” This doesn’t mean that the needs of the members are
not important, only that they are placed in a larger context of lives
continually be transformed to be like Christ and moving each member out to be
witnesses for Jesus in the world.
Joy,
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